dating

I think the hardest part about the dating process is the commitment factor. I'll admit, at my age commitment is still scary in the sense that more time has been spent, by de facto, in selfishness. But in certain respects it's easier. At this point I know that love is more commitment than emotion; and I now have additional people experience (i.e.,give-and-take). I also know a little bit of how "work" and "expectation" fit it. One of the things I've enjoyed in my singleness is the opportunity to mature and understand the difference between "settling" and realistic expectations in personhood and development. Now what I find difficult is when everyone says to wait and be patient...and part of me thinks that's what I've done...for 31 years. Then the commitment factor is confused because one assumes commitment...but nothing significant happens to affirm it in its entirety...leaving suggestive confusion.

Marriage is work right? If I find the top things I've looked for in a woman (understanding the rest would and will require work for a lifetime anyways), why wait? :)